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RE: Cell Phones and Relationships Today - 8/1/2010 12:14:37 AM
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sharonjef2007
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What backward social tendencies are you talking about? I just don't get it...guess I never will. 
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RE: Cell Phones and Relationships Today - 8/1/2010 2:03:45 PM
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CMT8808
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I'm not blowing anything out of porportion. You don't know if the person Chick A in the store is talking to is in the next isle or half way around the world. You just don't know. So why judge? Why do you care that someone who you don't know is talking on a cell phone while in a store, walking down the street or whatever?
Are you feeling slighted or something?
Actually Sharon you are blowing it out of proportion as it doesn't take a genius to figure out if the person is speaking to another local.
If you read the posts again I've noticed that you are taking this personal as maybe an attack on you, which is not what this thread is about.
The thread is about how relationships are not forming because of folks constantly using their cell phones verses IRL (old fashion communcation).
Not every family or folks have spouses or loved ones in Iraq or not living close enough to go shopping with, but the ones who do forsake the relationship and use their cell to feel connected.
The post is about how people/folks abandon RL relationships using their cell phones ignoring their surroundings because they are sooo caught up in their circle of friends, that maybe they missed a mother struggling with her child(ren) that could use a helping hand.
This is not about why you have one, it is about the abuse of them and people connecting outside of it.
I am not judging them, but made a simple observation. I have no reason to be slighted, as I have a cell phone, but choose not to constantly use it.
I do not have family close by what's left of them and I generally call on Sundays wishing everyone a Happy and Blessed day.
Hassadah~ I did find your statement hillarious and not once have I ever stated one should cry on the shoulder of a random stranger.
Like Mighty Oak said, it is highly rude for employees or patrons to be on their cell as the person in front of them attending to them is like an invisible being. (And whether a warning happened or not employees still do it as well as the patrons)
Maybe technology is right and they should install more "Self" check outs, so we can avoid other people altogether.
Like the new thing a certain supermarket is doing. They have self scanners. You insert your supermarket card, remove the scanner, grab your bags and scan your food as you shop. When you are finished you check out by handing your scanner to the cashier or plug in to the Self checkout and pay your tab. Therefore avoiding any relationship which I thought that was what Jesus was about Relationships.
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RE: Cell Phones and Relationships Today - 8/1/2010 4:54:23 PM
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sharonjef2007
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I just really think you are off base and generalizing. I don't know ANYONE in real life that does that. Talk on the cell phone while in public? Sure. Prefer to have a relationship that is through telephones and computers instead of real, face to face relationships? Nope. Not one.
And for what it is worth, I don't think using a self check out or not being super chatty with a stranger or store employee says anything about a relationship. There isn't one. They are strangers.
How many people have you started a "relationship"with who you just happen to meet out and about? I can't think of one myself.
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RE: Cell Phones and Relationships Today - 8/1/2010 7:08:44 PM
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Kath
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CMT, I just can't see strangers talking to other strangers at the store or any other place other than church, unless they need help finding something, so I don't understand your pov at all.
I do find it inconsiderate to talk on the phone while checking out, but that is my personal opinion, I don't judge anyone else for doing so. I know my phone has rang while I'm in line because my kids or husband need something, even if it's just when I'll be home. I answer and get off, but still, I do not have a close, personal relationship with the check out person.
< Message edited by Kath -- 8/1/2010 7:44:18 PM >
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RE: Cell Phones and Relationships Today - 8/1/2010 8:28:24 PM
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CMT8808
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Kath~
I have total strangers talk to me (ask me a question or if I knew) and I am not a 'Chatty' person at all.
Sharon~ Yes I have actually had a woman speak to me at a bus stop years ago and we remained friends until she passed.
And 2 years ago a woman at the laundry spoke to me and we have been friends since and see each other every week for coffee.
I also had a coworker who picked up a p/t job at a convenience store to help support her household. She was a single parent who one of her sons friend had an issue at home and she became his legal guardianship.
A man use to stop every Sunday and started talking to her, who would have guessed that a year later they would marry? They've been married now over 10 years.
So yes sometimes friendships/relationships do form
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RE: Cell Phones and Relationships Today - 8/10/2010 2:06:15 AM
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JACQUI2911
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Hi there
Cellphones are good tools particularly in an emergency , but it has been abused. I refuse to text, I would rather pick up my landline phone and call someone and meet for coffee.
Everyone seems so busy and time poor, that people have forgotten how to have more meaningful friendships. We have a very superficial way of conversation, gossipy and general.
It is very difficult to swim against the tide, even when other Christians are doing the same thing. I am busy also, but I am very conscious of how I use my time, and I would rather encourage someone personally than watching tv or facebook.
Jacqui
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RE: Cell Phones and Relationships Today - 8/10/2010 8:15:40 AM
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I hate to blame technology for personality differences. I've been to stores with poor customer service that had nothing to do with cell phones. I shop at stores with good service and send in good customer feed back reviews. I don't go back to poorly run or managed stores.
I've chatted with strangers just because it is interesting. If someone doesn't want to chat it is pretty easy to tell from the first time they answer. If they don't mind chatting it can be fun and interesting. No strings attached. That is personality and mood, not technology.
Many younger people, I"ve read, would rather text than talk on the phone voice. It gives them more control over when they chose to answer rather than dedicating time to a conversation. Again, it is a human tendancy made possible by the technology, not technology creating the tendency.
I was reading an article about e-books and studying. They were talking about students skimming and reading shallowly. I don't blame the technology I blame the human tendency to get lazy and want to go watch t.v., watch sports, play a video game, see your bf or gf, take a nap. E-books don't change that. It's more that the new technology promoted a study that noticed the tendency.
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RE: Cell Phones and Relationships Today - 8/10/2010 8:42:08 AM
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I just watched a television article about parents who are too connected to their youngsters when they go off to college. Instead of learning to become adults and take on personal responsibility, technology has kept these offspring i-connected to the home strings more than usual.
My premise stays the same. Some parents are over protective. Technology gives them more ways to pander to that personality trait.
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RE: Cell Phones and Relationships Today - 8/10/2010 5:26:25 PM
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Kath
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I just watched a television article about parents who are too connected to their youngsters when they go off to college. Instead of learning to become adults and take on personal responsibility, technology has kept these offspring i-connected to the home strings more than usual.
I can believe that.
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